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Hi everyone,

I’ve found a role at a company where one of my LinkedIn connections works. We’re not super close—we worked in the same building a few years back and have exchanged a few comments, but that’s about it.

I want to ask for a referral, as I know that’s the best way to get my application seen, but I’m struggling with the etiquette. What’s the best way to craft the message without sounding transactional or putting them in an awkward position? I don’t want to come across as a user, but I also don’t want to miss the opportunity.

What’s the best way to word that first message? Any templates or advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Jeff Bullas]

Good question.

Quick Answer: The most professional way to ask a loose LinkedIn connection for a job referral is to send a concise, low-effort message that briefly reminds them of your connection, explicitly names the job, and provides all the necessary documentation for them to simply forward.

The key to a successful request for a loose tie is to make it as low-friction as possible for the other person, respecting their time and their professional reputation, as they don’t know your work well. The message format itself is a form of professionalism, demonstrating that you value their time and have done all the pre-work. The communication format itself—a clear, direct message with all materials attached—shows respect, which is a powerful display of good etiquette. Always provide your complete, tailored resume and the exact link or job ID for the role you’re interested in; never ask them to search for it. You should also offer them an easy ‘out’ by stating that you understand if they aren’t comfortable doing it, which actually makes them feel less pressured and more likely to help. Don’t waste space apologising or over-explaining your qualifications; let the attached resume do the heavy lifting for the main body of your case.

Cheers,
Jeff

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